Protected: An Open Letter, If You Will
Posted: August 15, 2006 at 4:46 pmAn Open Letter to Whomever Thinks It Is For Them;
You are such a simpleton. If your brain cannot wrap around the simple underlying fact that people, all people, process their emotions and feelings in differing ways, then I must say that I am sorry for your children. I am sorry for all that they will lose by being able to form their own opinions and feelings about life in general, let alone adoption issues. Your overbearing need to be right about every adoption issue on the planet is saddening. So many want to learn; adoptees, adoptive and first parents alike. But you? You know it all, don’t you?
So let me say this loud and clear: no matter what you need to tell yourself to get to sleep at night, coercion still exists. For pity’s sake, if you won’t even listen to one of the most well-respected firstmothers out there, I don’t know why I bother thinking that something will get through that thick skull of yours. I normally don’t wish pain, hurt and crisis on anyone but the only way you would ever understand what the world is trying to slam into that miniscule brain of yours is by experiencing a crisis pregnancy. Full on with an unethical agency!
However, you seem so emotionally stunted that I doubt you could survive. Your insecurities ring loud in all of your posts. It’s a shame. Until you take the time to research things a bit more thoroughly (coercion, unethical pieces of crap like ANLC, etc), you’ll never, ever get it. You can type until you are blue in the face and vice versa and I will never, ever have respect for you.
Sincerely;
Me.
The Discussion
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Well, I’m pretty sure it’s not me. Which is good. I’m also pretty sure I would want you that mad at me ;).
Seriously, it is a shame that some don’t take the time to learn, to have open minds, or to say, “wow. I had some of that wrong.” I know I had some things wrong. And I probably still do, but I’m open to learning. I’ll at least hear different opinions and then come to my own conclusions.
Adoption is a complicated matter, after all. Nobody knows everything about it.
I think I know who you mean. And I don’t think she will ever accept the truth. I once e-mailed her and suggested that she should rethink her idea that it is best that she maintain a relationship with the firstparents and family, but exclude her child from it (which is exactly what she said). GAH, her response just made me realize it was, um, really hopeless to get her to understand. And she thinks she has grown so much from her initial feelings about adoption. Maybe a little bit but not enough.