Comments on: Nobody Told Me http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/ Chapter Two Wed, 07 Jan 2009 12:07:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Michele http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1031 Michele Mon, 04 Sep 2006 17:35:37 +0000 https://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.wordpress.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/#comment-1031 I'm so excited for you! What will you be doing? I’m so excited for you! What will you be doing?

]]> By: Margie http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1033 Margie Mon, 04 Sep 2006 00:57:39 +0000 https://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.wordpress.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/#comment-1033 Hi, Jenna, love your new look! Everybody's getting makeovers! This has become my litany: Services for pregnant women should be separated from adoption services because I think it is simply impossible for agencies to seriously assist a woman to keep her child when the prospective adoptive parents are paying fees for their services. It simply makes no sense. And that's why, IMO, women aren't really told all the possibilities that exist to help them keep and parent their children. I'm so sorry it happened in your case, too. Hi, Jenna, love your new look! Everybody’s getting makeovers!

This has become my litany: Services for pregnant women should be separated from adoption services because I think it is simply impossible for agencies to seriously assist a woman to keep her child when the prospective adoptive parents are paying fees for their services. It simply makes no sense.

And that’s why, IMO, women aren’t really told all the possibilities that exist to help them keep and parent their children. I’m so sorry it happened in your case, too.

]]> By: Mary http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1032 Mary Fri, 01 Sep 2006 16:11:21 +0000 https://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.wordpress.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/#comment-1032 gosh Jenna. I am sorry that you were not given the support that you should have been given. Words are lurkers are likely inadequate to heal the demon of regret that you are battling with, but accept this lurker and single mom's vote of confidence. I remember dealing with the shame and disgrace I felt when I was pregnant with my son...the only way I survived was because my mother said I could do it. I already knew it, but her constant vote of confidence sustained me in the face of everyone elses vote of no confidence. I am so excited that you now have the opportunity to give BigBrother the one on one attention that he loves. Can I be nosey? What job did you find where you can work from home? Blessings Mary gosh Jenna. I am sorry that you were not given the support that you should have been given. Words are lurkers are likely inadequate to heal the demon of regret that you are battling with, but accept this lurker and single mom’s vote of confidence. I remember dealing with the shame and disgrace I felt when I was pregnant with my son…the only way I survived was because my mother said I could do it. I already knew it, but her constant vote of confidence sustained me in the face of everyone elses vote of no confidence.

I am so excited that you now have the opportunity to give BigBrother the one on one attention that he loves.

Can I be nosey? What job did you find where you can work from home?

Blessings
Mary

]]> By: Judy http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1035 Judy Fri, 01 Sep 2006 10:50:58 +0000 https://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.wordpress.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/#comment-1035 Oh yes, one more thing -- this "I was constantly reminded what a bad Mother I would be to the Munchkin because I would have to leave her in daycare all the time just to go work." is crap too. Lots of great, well-adjusted kids, mine included, come out of daycare. Daycare is not an evil ting. It has been wonderful for my active, social boy. and while I got those comments some, I doubt I got them quite as much simply because I did things the "traditional" way with the husband in tow. Yeah. It's really time for "The Mommy Wars" of who makes a better mom, the ones at home or the ones who choose to or have to work outside the home -- of who is "better" -- for that debate to stop. We all have value to add to our children's lives individually and together. Oh yes, one more thing — this “I was constantly reminded what a bad Mother I would be to the Munchkin because I would have to leave her in daycare all the time just to go work.” is crap too. Lots of great, well-adjusted kids, mine included, come out of daycare. Daycare is not an evil ting. It has been wonderful for my active, social boy. and while I got those comments some, I doubt I got them quite as much simply because I did things the “traditional” way with the husband in tow. Yeah.

It’s really time for “The Mommy Wars” of who makes a better mom, the ones at home or the ones who choose to or have to work outside the home — of who is “better” — for that debate to stop. We all have value to add to our children’s lives individually and together.

]]> By: Judy http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/comment-page-1/#comment-1034 Judy Fri, 01 Sep 2006 10:28:26 +0000 https://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.wordpress.com/2006/08/31/nobody-told-me/#comment-1034 Well, people were wrong -- even moms who work outside the home can be good moms. This distinction between moms who work outside the home, moms who work in the home, stay at home moms -- is artificial. It simply doesn't mean that some moms are "better" or more committed than another. Well, people were wrong — even moms who work outside the home can be good moms. This distinction between moms who work outside the home, moms who work in the home, stay at home moms — is artificial. It simply doesn’t mean that some moms are “better” or more committed than another.

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