First, to start off this post, a humorous IM conversation:
Munchkin’sFirstMom: so, in regards to library
Munchkin’sFirstMom: how do you want me to introduce you guys
D: umm..however you want to 
Munchkin’sFirstMom: Yeah. Hmm.
D: whatever is most comfortable for you
Munchkin’sFirstMom: i’ll have to think.
D: i wouldnt care if you introduced me as your lesbian lover and our kids. hahahahah
D: but really…whatever you feel most comfortable with
Munchkin’sFirstMom: yeah, too many people from our church go to play it that way
Munchkin’sFirstMom: lol
Munchkin’sFirstMom: but i’ll consider it
Munchkin’sFirstMom: in fact, i’m blogging this conversation
Munchkin’sFirstMom: lol
D: lol
D: *waves* to all Munchkin’sFirstMom’s blog readers
Munchkin’sFirstMom: LOL
D: i better see that on the blog
Munchkin’sFirstMom: i will!
So, that prefaces my question a bit.
D and the kids will be visiting during the week which means they will be present for a Tuesday morning Library Storytime. BigBrother and I go every Tuesday morning. I’ve grown close enough with two mommies to consider them friends. I associate with a few others at places like church every week. (One other Mommy happens to be one of the Snobby Mommies featured in SnibSnubbery.) And so, I’m presented with the challenge of how to introduce D, Munchkin and JD.
One of my friends from the library does “know” about the Munchkin as she and I had a brief conversation about her placement but she didn’t really “get it.” (See also Well That’s Never Happened Before on the Birth/First Parent blog.)
And so, how do I introduce the crew? D’s lesbian joke is funny (and not far off from how we’ve been thought of in the past) but may not be a hit with my friends as most are from church as well. Some advice on this topic goes back to being discreet but I have a new problem that runs hard against that advice.
I absolutely, 100% refuse to deny my daughter. It makes me feel like crap. She is important in my life. She is amazing. I want people to know that I am not ashamed of her and denying her seems to scream shame. To top it off, I absolutely, 455987698706% refuse to deny her while she is present. Even if at three she may be busy looking at her new surroundings or running off to join the other kids, I refuse to run the risk of her hearing me say, “Oh, they’re just friends.” They’re not just friends. (Well, D is my friend. Yes. But you know what I mean.)
And so, how do I introduce everyone without a) giving myself a panic attack, b) denying my daughter, c) creating a weird moment between everyone in the class or d) making my head explode. Second thoughts lead me to believe that there WILL be a weird moment no matter what I choose to say about WHO the Munchkin is and our situation so, maybe the question should be: How do I introduce them in the least awkward way and, following up, how do I handle said awkward moments in the best possible manner?
Discuss.
