D, J and I are sitting in their living room, three laptops on three laps. (Three babies are sleeping in three bedrooms.) As per usual, discussion turned to adoption at one point. As per usual, it became a kvetching fest about the less-than-ethical agency (ANLC). We were discussing the things that they did and said to J and D, the things that they told them to do that make our skin crawl.
D: Yeah, they told us, “If the “birth mother” (air quotes) says she wants to name the baby, just go ahead and agree and then you can change the name and she’ll never know.
Munchkin’sFirstMom: Yeah, because they told you I’d fade away and lose interest.
D: And here you are in my living room!
It’s also very validating to know that they both detest the agency as much as I do. Of course, they told them to “play down” the fact that J has three sons from a previous marriage. But I wanted the Munchkin to have siblings. And when I found out that they were biracial, BADDA-BING folks.
In short, don’t listen to ANLC, whatever you do. And come join us for late night adoption gossip. If you’ve written something about adoption in the past week, you’ve been discussed tonight. Mostly good. ;)
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Hee! I love the picture of you guys surfing around on your laptops gossiping about adoption blogs!