The Munchkin is going to preschool sometime in the near future. (As in this fall but I don’t know the start date.) I’m lost in a sea of various emotions. Putting them aside (though I’ll return to them later to discuss, lament and purge), I need ideas.
I want to send a gift. It’s a big step, preschool. I’m proud of her. I want to spoil her with a little something extra. Obviously, I’m thinking some kind of cute outfit. But, what else does a(n) (almost) four year old girl want? What epitomizes this big step? Why do I need to ask (relative) strangers for advice on what to buy for my own daughter?
Why do I feel so absolutely, insanely inept? I’m having an anxiety attack just thinking about preschool and gifts. Not really a fan of being a birth mother today. Not really a fan.
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I started to write about what K’s first mom must feel as I take K off to school, but I couldn’t bring myself to chart those waters today. Wrote about my own feelings instead.
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How ’bout finding the coolest backpack EVER? A special pack of crayons (64 with a sharpener attached!), or a special box she can start to collect special school things over the years…papers, report cards, etc. Hugs! I bet its so hard not being there for that big day.
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I can tell you what Madison wants — sparkly shoes. Like the kind you find at Target with the glitter? She wants those BAD.
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Yes, see, shoes I can do. But doesn’t the picking of a backpack fall on the everyday parents? I don’t know what is stepping over a line and is thus inappropriate or unfair of me to assume as my own responsibility or right and what is “okay.” (Obviously, I haven’t yet discussed this with D but I will be, promise.) I get so confused with these issues.
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A backpack (you can never have too many) or how about a cool lunch box. Lunch boxes are all the rage in Preschool. Good luck, whatever you give her she will treasure.
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Pencils with her name on them.
And get D one of the frames that she can put a pic of her from k-12 (and get one for yourself too).
I love the stuff on the Personal Creations website.
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It’s hard enough to send your child off to school as an “everyday Mom”. I’ve been doing it for 4 years now and I still get such a crazy mix of emotions every time the first day rolls around.
On Kelsey’s first day of preschool ever, I was in the hospital, having given birth to Donovan the night before. So I wasn’t able to drop her off that first day. And even though I was cuddling with my brand new little baby, the fact that I wasn’t the one to be there on her big day just crushed me.
So I can’t even begin to imagine what it’s like to know that your little one is going off to school somewhere else, with someone else. **HUGS**
As far as a gift… It’d be more for D than the Munchkin right now, but what about a school memories scrapbook? I got this one as a gift and I love it: http://www.ltdcommodities.com/home/catalog/cat_item_pg3.asp?G=487&P=189&Rec=13&Ntt=school+scrapbook&N=37&Nao=0&R=11075
But there are tons of others on Amazon.
For the Munchkin…what about something special she can take to school with her? A special bracelet or necklace maybe? Something special she could keep with her to remind her of you and help calm those first-day nerves.
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My first thought was one of those charm bracelets (the flat charms not the dangly ones) that you can add to to make it bigger as she gets older and with charms that mean something to you both. If K ever did that for my Bug, oh my, I would just be over the moon.
Now that I think about it, whatever we were to get for Bug or Roo from their other Momma would be perfect. And I’m not just saying that either. I mean it.
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I think a charm bracelet is a nice thing–we started them for my nieces when they were born with the intention of adding charms for whatever life transitions seemed to make sense.
But from a kid view, boxes are good: preschoolers love boxes in which they can store treasures of various sorts.
Mostly, I think whatever you choose will be valued b/c you sent it with love.
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no suggestions, just (((Jenna))) I’m sorry you are missing her first day of preschool
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Oh I agree with Dawn — my daughter starts pre-school and she wants FANCY shoes too!!
DS-L
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I’m thinking something she can take with her to school that reminds her of you, so she remembers how proud of her you are and how you love this new big girl Munchkin!!!
Like a special necklace or bracelet or keychain that can go on her backpack zipper….
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hmm, interesting. my youngest is starting kindergarten next week. i will cry as i did when his brother started five years ago. but still while i shed a tear for him, i always shed a tear for me and my daughter and how i missed those things with her. it seems I cannot enjoy a single milestone in my sons lives without reflecting on how i missed it in hers.
as for feeling inept, funny you mention that. i have always assumed that all mothers feel that way but I do wonder if those of us that lost children to adoption feel it deeper or worse..since we were told (at least I was) that we did not deserve our children and could never be a good parent. can we ever shed that horrible skin?
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