I haven’t written much about us, as a collective group, in quite awhile. I’ve talked about issues that we face or have faced or family in the abstract or adoption on a bigger scale or, really, just about anything that didn’t involve our immediate family. It’s not that we’re having a rough time. Or that I’m purposefully avoiding issues. Or anything of that nature.

We’re just kind of boring.

I say that with love. And really, some pride. It’s good to get to a “boring” place. Like Mary J., we’ve got no more drama up in this piece. We do have some issues on our plate. Who doesn’t? But other than that, we’re coping just fine.

As for the issues: we’re struggling to schedule an actual visit because of busy family lives on both ends and some health issues on their end. Am I sad that we haven’t had a visit in awhile? Well, sure. Am I angry? Not a bit. First and foremost, I just want J and D to be well again. I pray for it daily. (And nightly. And afternoonly.) Secondly, some of the busy-family-lives problem is on our end. At one point, when they could have come out, we were heading off for vacation! And, more over, it’s not as if we don’t have contact. While D and I lament that we’re never on the computer at the same time anymore (or, so it seems), we still send e-mails, have brief conversations throughout the day via IM and get a phone call in at least once a week (if not more). Pictures and funny stories are still shared. “Heavy” things are still discussed as need be. We’re still continuing to grow in our relationship even though we’re missing each others’ physical presence right now.

Do I miss Munchkin right now? Yes. During these times of family chaos, I wish that we didn’t live so far apart. I’ve been tempted, at times, to just jump in the Jeep and drive on over. As my pregnancy has taken a complicated turn, that may not be my best option (traveling alone, or even just with BigBrother). I miss actually touching her curls and getting good morning and good night kisses from lips that seem remarkably like my son’s own set. Being realistic isn’t always easy. Reminding myself that people have to take care of certain things and do other things isn’t always easy when I just want to hold my daughter. But I think (think…) I’m in a good place with it right now. Perhaps it’s because I know that, physically, my options are now limited for travel and I can compare that to the issues that their family is facing. Or perhaps I knew that before these complications arose. Perhaps I’m just finally learning that “for good.” It doesn’t take away the longing, of course. It just makes it easier to handle.

Anyway, that’s where we are. In a good place, even without a visit scheduled. We’re busy, separately, and working on keeping communication open together. I’m missing the Munchkin… and my friend D. And really, all’s quiet over here. Well, as quiet as life can be children.