Who Cares About Them Birth Parent People!
Posted: October 15, 2007 at 4:40 pmANLC is in the news. If I was to say that my feathers weren’t ruffled, it would be a lie. If I was to say that I didn’t think that the entire “article” wasn’t a whole public relations attempt to get people to think that they’re “good guys” in the face of adversity, well, that would be a bold faced lie. At the same time, I am sensitive to issues surrounding infertility (the article comes from one of the advisers at ANLC being awarded something from RESOLVE) so I don’t want to step on toes.
But man, the quotes coming out of this article are priceless. They speak volumes as to what ANLC is really concerned about in the long run. I mean, tell me where expectant parents considering adoption, birth parents who have already relinquished or children are mentioned in the following quote:
As a team, our greatest satisfaction comes from helping build loving families. To all of us here, nothing is more rewarding than helping to create a family through adoption and having an employee recognized for her extraordinary work is actually a compliment to us all.
Yep. As a team, they don’t give a rip about the mothers who are unnecessarily losing their children to form those families. They also don’t seem to give a rip about the adoptive families that they treat like crap during the process (like J and D). They also don’t care about the lifelong issues that adoption creates, however major or minor. Offering no post-adoption counseling for these newly formed families, they’re just left to their own devices to flub their way through the creation of a lasting relationship. Also, again, note the lack of anything being said about the children. At all. Sigh.
The article goes on. And it makes me giggle. In a really sad, depressed kind of way.
Adoption Network Law Center is a professional law corporation providing quality domestic newborn adoption services to Adoptive Parents. ANLC’s adoption services are nurturing and loving, and help guide and support Adoptive Parents and Birth Parents through the adoption process with integrity & complete support.
Note that, first, the services are provided to ADOPTIVE PARENTS. Not expectant parents. In fact, no where are expectant parents mentioned in the entire blurb. Birth parents, at the very last part of the article in the last half of the last sentence are mentioned. And then lied about since it says “complete support” and that would infer that birth parents who live in states where open adoptions are not legally binding would be told that very important little tidbit of legal information. But, then again, why would a birth parent, someone who has already signed the TPR, need to know information like that? Oh, that’s right, they’ve once again misappropriated the word to subtly coerce mothers into breaking that in utero connection they have with their child! They’re so smart.
I love when things like this end up in my inbox! Love.
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You know, I don’t like the phrase ‘miracle of adoption’ either. I am not sure what’s miraculous about it? Childbirth is miraculous to me, adoption…sigh…adoption is just painful and difficult all the way around.
Hi Jenna
This is completely irrelevant but.
I was wondering.
When I read at adoption com ” Unplanned pregnancy, Considering adoption ” forums.
Some of the expectant moms really sound so naive.
I am not a birth mom and I did not want to open a discussion, but I thought may be you would :
The subject is :
” The mistakes expectant parents do while deciding on adoption” and may be it may help some of the girls to decide.
From reading recent post I think that:
I do not think that they understand that their child needs them. They think, once the baby goes to adoption family as soon as he/ she is born, no harm is done to the baby. He/she will grow in the family as if he/she was born in it.
He/she will definitely be better of.
Some think that once they give birth they will have their old self back and they will continue as nothing happened.
They just want to get out of that situation as soon as possible. They do not understand how they will harm themselves by losing their baby. They think that it is the easy way out.
Some feel guilty and they think by giving their children to adoption they will correct their mistake.
They think “they are not ready to be parent and they will not want children until their 30s and this feeling will stay the same”. ( I wonder is it so?)
Without sharing they think that their family will not support them . ( in some cases it can be true but I think some families do change once the baby is real )
They think open adoption is easy .
Or if they choose closed adoption they think that they will want closed adoption in future and their feelings will not change.
Etc.
Just letting you know I tagged you today. Marcie
Yet another reason to find RESOLVE really really annoying.
Eek. Ick. And sigh.
The battle to change these ingrained attitudes marches drearily onward.