Comments on: Who Cares About Them Birth Parent People! http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/ Writing Our Ever-Evolving Story Sat, 19 May 2012 16:21:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Coco http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2360 Coco Wed, 17 Oct 2007 15:49:45 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/#comment-2360 Eek. Ick. And sigh. The battle to change these ingrained attitudes marches drearily onward. Eek. Ick. And sigh.

The battle to change these ingrained attitudes marches drearily onward.

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]]> By: dawn http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2356 dawn Wed, 17 Oct 2007 14:05:44 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/#comment-2356 Yet another reason to find RESOLVE really really annoying. Yet another reason to find RESOLVE really really annoying.

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]]> By: pickel http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2358 pickel Tue, 16 Oct 2007 22:03:56 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/#comment-2358 Just letting you know I tagged you today. Marcie Just letting you know I tagged you today. Marcie

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]]> By: Magissa http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2357 Magissa Tue, 16 Oct 2007 08:39:44 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/#comment-2357 Hi Jenna This is completely irrelevant but. I was wondering. When I read at adoption com " Unplanned pregnancy, Considering adoption " forums. Some of the expectant moms really sound so naive. I am not a birth mom and I did not want to open a discussion, but I thought may be you would : The subject is : " The mistakes expectant parents do while deciding on adoption" and may be it may help some of the girls to decide. From reading recent post I think that: I do not think that they understand that their child needs them. They think, once the baby goes to adoption family as soon as he/ she is born, no harm is done to the baby. He/she will grow in the family as if he/she was born in it. He/she will definitely be better of. Some think that once they give birth they will have their old self back and they will continue as nothing happened. They just want to get out of that situation as soon as possible. They do not understand how they will harm themselves by losing their baby. They think that it is the easy way out. Some feel guilty and they think by giving their children to adoption they will correct their mistake. They think "they are not ready to be parent and they will not want children until their 30s and this feeling will stay the same". ( I wonder is it so?) Without sharing they think that their family will not support them . ( in some cases it can be true but I think some families do change once the baby is real ) They think open adoption is easy . Or if they choose closed adoption they think that they will want closed adoption in future and their feelings will not change. Etc. Hi Jenna
This is completely irrelevant but.

I was wondering.
When I read at adoption com ” Unplanned pregnancy, Considering adoption ” forums.
Some of the expectant moms really sound so naive.

I am not a birth mom and I did not want to open a discussion, but I thought may be you would :

The subject is :

” The mistakes expectant parents do while deciding on adoption” and may be it may help some of the girls to decide.

From reading recent post I think that:

I do not think that they understand that their child needs them. They think, once the baby goes to adoption family as soon as he/ she is born, no harm is done to the baby. He/she will grow in the family as if he/she was born in it.
He/she will definitely be better of.

Some think that once they give birth they will have their old self back and they will continue as nothing happened.
They just want to get out of that situation as soon as possible. They do not understand how they will harm themselves by losing their baby. They think that it is the easy way out.

Some feel guilty and they think by giving their children to adoption they will correct their mistake.

They think “they are not ready to be parent and they will not want children until their 30s and this feeling will stay the same”. ( I wonder is it so?)

Without sharing they think that their family will not support them . ( in some cases it can be true but I think some families do change once the baby is real )

They think open adoption is easy .
Or if they choose closed adoption they think that they will want closed adoption in future and their feelings will not change.

Etc.

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]]> By: Wendy http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/comment-page-1/#comment-2359 Wendy Mon, 15 Oct 2007 19:41:28 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2007/10/15/who-cares-about-them-birth-parent-people/#comment-2359 You know, I don't like the phrase 'miracle of adoption' either. I am not sure what's miraculous about it? Childbirth is miraculous to me, adoption...sigh...adoption is just painful and difficult all the way around. You know, I don’t like the phrase ‘miracle of adoption’ either. I am not sure what’s miraculous about it? Childbirth is miraculous to me, adoption…sigh…adoption is just painful and difficult all the way around.

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