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I have this comment sitting in moderation. I haven’t deleted it. I haven’t spammed it. I haven’t approved it. It’s just sitting there. Every time I login, I’m warned that it is just sitting there, begging to be dealt with. But every time I click over to look at it, I want to vomit. Or scream. Possibly cuss. And I most definitely want to write about it.

But I’m stumped.

It’s a pro-life vs. pro-choice comment. And I can’t figure out how to reply to it without making myself sound like a total meanie-face. But it spouts, ever so politely, some really aggravating things. And I just don’t know what to do with it right now. So it sits. Taunting me.

I wanted to deal with it by Blog for Choice day. But, well, with the boys and the laundry and the work and the other stuff on my plate, I just didn’t get to it. And I still haven’t. I’m wondering when I will. If I will. It’s not that I doubt my position. I just don’t like when either side comes off as a complete buttface. And lately, I’ve seen buttfaces on both sides. And that’s not cool, man.

In other news, I plan on watching Juno tonight. If time permits. Look for that reaction on Monday for sure. (For sure, of course, based on whether it actually gets watched or not…)

I think you would have to try REALLY HARD to come off as a buttface. Which is to say, I don’t think that comes naturally to you ‘cuz I’ve yet to see buttface behavior on any of your many, many blogs!

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I think that every comment deserves to be viewed and if you feel the need to comment back it is your right.

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Not particularly sure when I said that comments don’t deserve to be viewed.

I tend to disagree with your op about all comments need to be viewed. Why? If it was left for you and your viewed it, then you served your reader. If it is scandalous, will cause your blog to stir up trouble, get a negative reputation, hurt the feelings of other mothers or children, I think you have the right to filter your comments. Its like your “house”. You have the right by virtue of it being your house to decide who comes here and what they bring to the party.

If you are holding, you are doing so for a reason and knowing you I trust that reason to be a valid one.

Jenna,

I’ve been an avid reader of your blogs for a while now, and while I have noticed by the sheer amount of commens you receive that many other people also find your writing to be interesting, I think it goes just a little farther for me.

As an adoptee(Lord..I said it) it gives me great pleasure and the tiniest hint of pain to read about the love you have for all of your children. Placed, or not. I’ve been in contact with my firstparents for about 7 years now (I’m only 18..so I’ve been in contact before I was even a teenager) and its been both a rewarding and heartbreaking experience. I have come to love my firstfather, connect with my emotionally drained 15 year old sister who remained with the biological family, and I have come to mourn the loss of my mother, who , because of certain vices, will never be what I long for her to be.

Long story short (although I’ve never been good at making things short.. have you noticed?), no matter how down you may feel at times, you seem to me, to be a remarkable person. My firstmother refuses to talk about our past, as it is far too painful for her. As if the pain isn’t shared between all of us. Your ability to work through the pain, and publicly express yourself and your experience leaves me awestruck. Those who are ignorant will tell you that Munckin is lucky to have her parents now. That they are loving, and kind,and that you made the right choice. I have no idea about the past, but I’m writing to tell you that she is lucky to have YOU. Now. As a first mother. A mother. A friend. In any shape or form. If only all firstmothers were like you. Munckins got it good, in more ways than one.

All of us have been thrust into this life of adoption, by becoming first moms, adoptees, or adoptive parents. And sometimes it hurts. But if all those involved in adoption were as open and honest and loving and articulate as you, this adoption world in which we have found ourselves would be a nicer place to inhabit.

First, I wanted to say that Amanda K is sure one heck of a mature, articulate 18 year old! Wow!
Second, I don’t agree that all comments have to be posted but have to admit that I am now dying of curiosity. Why not post the comment and let us respond (she says…laughing evilly).

I’m mature in some ways, but in others I’m a such a child. When I write I find that I can articulate myself better . (I’m a prefessional writing creative writing major in college)

Anyway, I am leaving another comment because last time my website was typed incorrectly.

Hi, I’m a first-time visitor by way of BlogHer. I’m intrigued! I’d be interested in seeing that comment, or at least reading your feedback to it. But, if it makes you uneasy, then perhaps it’s best to leave it in limbo.

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maybe you can respond to that comment matter-of-factly? there’s nothing mean about stating your opinion; the commenter did. and this is your blog, after all.

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