This article is interesting. I’d still like to see what the writer has to say about the negative portrayal of birth mothers, the adoption process, etc. Then again, who wants to take the time to address a bunch of birth moms. They’re useless, right? Sigh.
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oh, silly jenna, birth moms arent useless. they are quite useful in producing children for infertile couples, they are useful to those that want to keep closed records (those moms are the ones demanding confidentiality you know…after all they need to be protected from their children), they are useful to blame when your adopted child is problematic (it is bad genes, you know)
yes, i am being snarky…but really, give credit where credit is due. we due serve some purpose, dont we?
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Because I’m not generally allowed into the birth/first mom circles to find this out, has there been an organized effort by birth/first moms to address representations in the film? Coming from the China adoption community, I know there has been a huge organized campaign, which is the only reason there is any coverage of the issue (of course, they aren’t covering those of us who think that the entire notion of protesting one line from a film, particularly by a bunch of people who haven’t actually seen it, is an absurd waste of time and that there are far more important issues to address in the realm of adoption and in numerous other realms as well). I’ll be one of the first in line to say that many adoptive parents have their priorities all out of whack (though this is certainly not limited to adoptive parents).
That being said, does the simple fact that one part of the triad/spectrum/etc. is getting coverage automatically mean that the other parts are meaningless? When I read articles, comments, etc. from birth/first moms that are critical of adoption, I don’t necessarily agree with everything they say, but I also don’t assume that their having an opinion means I have no purpose.
Sure, these parents are wasting time obsessing over a stupid comment (though one that does, I think, fairly knowingly point to perceptions of adoption from China in America in general), but does that mean birth/first moms are being ignored?
I’ve been trying to find information from birth/first moms who have actually seen to film and can share their opinions, but have only been able to find one thing from one person who considered placing her child for adoption but then changed her mind (so has only a partial understanding of what birth/first moms have gone through and, therefore, what they may actually have thought about the film).
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If you have been reading, I was interviewed for an AP article on this topic. However, the AP article either has been canned or hasn’t yet made it to publication.
THAT said, I’m all for people protesting WHATEVER they feel like protesting. I don’t think it pointless/meaningless or evidence of mixed priorities that a group of people took offense to the comment. I’m not an adoptive parent and I think the line is offensive.
I knew that you were interviewed, but hadn’t seen on your blog anywhere that it had been canned. That I absolutely do have a problem with and hope everyone else does as well! If anyone is going to cover anything dealing with this film, I think there is a responsibility to do so from all sides represented by it. I am certain there are thousands of people out there (like me) who would very much like to know what first/birth mothers (and fathers) who’ve seen it think about the film. Just as I’m interested in hearing what other adoptive mothers/fathers who’ve seen it think (even if I don’t agree with spending a lot of time trying to keep an awards show from broadcasting one specific line…)
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