It’s early. I had no sleep because BigBrother has a raging ear infection. But let me tell you something: my child was not unwanted nor unloved. And if you think that birth parent rights are a “problem” for adoption, adopting from another country doesn’t magically remove the birth parents from the equation. Babies don’t appear out of midair! Instead, as we recently read in an article out of Guatemala, too often birth parents from other countries are victimized in various ways that we American birth parents don’t want to imagine. One way does not solve the problems for the other way. Children adopted internationally still have birth parents. Can’t erase it. (I submitted a comment but we know that The New York Times screens comments so, well, we’ll see!)
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My belief is that suggesting the child was unloved or unwanted is an easy way for those who support adoption to look the other way on all the atrocities that occur in adoption.
Get on your religious high horse and say it is a sin to be pregnant out of wedlock. Get on privileged horse and say that poor women dont deserve to have children but rich women do. Get on your old decrepit horse and say young woman cannot be good mothers. Its all crap to justify the tactics used and to avoid helping mothers and children (and to line the pockets of the agencies and feed those hungry for children they cannot produce on their own)
That freakonomics guy annoyed the hell out of me with his ignorant statements on adoption. Dont all adopted children come from ignorant uneducated women? I find that so convenient..this way when adoptive parents fail they can blame genetics…wth.
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Suz; Great points. I was going to say more and then I got all jumbled inside so I just walked away from my own post comment. HA!
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Statements like this really frighten me for adoptees, too… it makes me wonder what kind of freedom this man’s two daughters will have to explore their heritage and origins. Will they get a not-so-subtle disapproval from their parents who “rescued” them from a life of poverty in China? Will they be upset if their daughters don’t “choose” to fully embrace their white, American upbringing? This is the same thing that occurs in domestic adoption when adoptees wait until their a-parents die to search for their birth family. Those a-parents make it clear that adoption was not a topic they wanted to discuss because it was too difficult for them, regardless of what their children were feeling.
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