Comments on: Breakdown

By: Poor_Statue

Poor_Statue — Sat, 24 May 2008 12:50:36 +0000

My daughter’s mom gave me a card that says “There are two kinds of families, the ones we are born to and the ones we create.” I was amazed at how appropriate it is. She’s also gotten me cards that say “Ma mere” because I’m French.

There was a little company for a short time that sold cards designed for birthmothers. I don’t know whatever happened to it.

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By: Coco

Coco — Mon, 12 May 2008 15:44:49 +0000

(((((HUGS)))))

It’s not a failure to cry in a card store, sweetie. Card stores are the SUCK for setting off landmines of simmering emotion.

I hope you had a decent Sunday. I thought about you often yesterday.

Coco’s last blog post..It’s Just Another Freaking Sunday, For Crying Out Loud

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By: mia

mia — Mon, 12 May 2008 15:03:10 +0000

Hallmark is evil (but I still want to work for them).

Standing there looking at all those cards is torture. When it comes to “adoption” there is never anything even remotely appropriate. Sigh.

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By: Munchkin'sFirstMom

Munchkin'sFirstMom — Sun, 11 May 2008 18:35:40 +0000

K; Thanks for letting me know that the wording is awful. It’s probably BETTER that I didn’t see it then… and I feel a little less general “ick” about it!

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By: Krissi from Krississippi

Krissi from Krississippi — Sun, 11 May 2008 18:29:42 +0000

I was also in Hallmark and bought the ONE AND ONLY ‘Birthmother’s Day’ card they had. And, truely? It’s awful. I’ve been contemplating writing a post about it in my journal to quote what it says.

I realize you wanted to be recognized, but for all it’s worth – Hallmark can kiss my ass when it comes to how they ‘word’ their ‘birthmother’ card. It’s gross.

K from Kssippi’s last blog post..I Reject your “(Birth)Mother’s Day” Reality and Substitue My Own

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By: Katja

Katja — Sun, 11 May 2008 17:03:34 +0000

I had a similar experience in the Hallmark earlier this week. And as I left feeling sad and forgotten I got mad at myself because I also wouldn’t want a card that said “birthmother”
I hope you have a Happy Mothers Day.

Katja’s last blog post..Not what I’d planned

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By: Sam

Sam — Sat, 10 May 2008 23:50:58 +0000

Invisible people don’t need cards, right? Right? ‘Cause we don’t exist. We’re not moms, and we don’t need cards. I’m sorry this is sucking so much for you. I understand.

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By: Jodi

Jodi — Sat, 10 May 2008 20:55:26 +0000

Jenna~ do not feel bad–I have burst into tears in the Hallmark store myself. And, I did search the shelves for a birthmom’s day card for our family’s birthmom and didn’t find any. I ended up making one–which turned out way better than any store bought one would have been anyway. I have already said some very special prayers for every parent who has relinquished a child and hope that you can feel honored and blessed–if only for a moment. I am acknowledging that you are a very special mom who deserves to feel honored and blessed. Thank you for your posts–they do help me to understand the true depth of the feelings our birthmom may be experiencing. She came over today and I am so happy that I am able to acknowledge her as Jakob’s mom too. We validate each other, I guess–and I feel very blessed–I hope she does too!!

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By: Judy

Judy — Sat, 10 May 2008 20:40:18 +0000

Margie’s right, Jenna. More *hugs*, honey.

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By: Margie

Margie — Sat, 10 May 2008 17:03:54 +0000

(((((Jenna)))))

This is no failure, honey, you need to be able to let your true feelings show.

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