Comments on: Silence and Friends http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2008/10/13/silence-and-friends/ Writing Our Ever-Evolving Story Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:41:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lisa http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2008/10/13/silence-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3824 Lisa Sun, 19 Oct 2008 06:17:30 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=642#comment-3824 It's too bad that you are forced into the position of feeling like it's secret. When the time is right, you'll tell and it'll be fine. Sometimes things seem worse than they are. I just found your blog and I find your story fascinating. I have never thought much about adoption until I wrote a blog post on Allison Quets recently. There is definitely a dark side to the adoption industry that most of us are never aware of. It’s too bad that you are forced into the position of feeling like it’s secret. When the time is right, you’ll tell and it’ll be fine. Sometimes things seem worse than they are.

I just found your blog and I find your story fascinating. I have never thought much about adoption until I wrote a blog post on Allison Quets recently. There is definitely a dark side to the adoption industry that most of us are never aware of.

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]]> By: Kendra http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2008/10/13/silence-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3819 Kendra Tue, 14 Oct 2008 01:27:05 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=642#comment-3819 I can't pretend to understand your particular situation, but I can tell you that I spent YEARS keeping a secret from a lot of people, and I know exactly how that anxiety feels every single time you meet and the conversation turns toward something that might make you start to feel uncomfortable. And I can also tell you that one of the best feelings in the world is unburdening yourself of that feeling. Like yours, the "secret" I was keeping wasn't anything terrible or anything to be ashamed of; it just seemed like I had waited too long to say it, and then I didn't know how. Just take a deep breath and do it. *hug* I can’t pretend to understand your particular situation, but I can tell you that I spent YEARS keeping a secret from a lot of people, and I know exactly how that anxiety feels every single time you meet and the conversation turns toward something that might make you start to feel uncomfortable. And I can also tell you that one of the best feelings in the world is unburdening yourself of that feeling. Like yours, the “secret” I was keeping wasn’t anything terrible or anything to be ashamed of; it just seemed like I had waited too long to say it, and then I didn’t know how. Just take a deep breath and do it. *hug*

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]]> By: Renee http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2008/10/13/silence-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3818 Renee Tue, 14 Oct 2008 00:11:29 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=642#comment-3818 I know it isn't the same thing, and please forgive me for making a comparison, but as an A-Mom, I feel the same way...like there is an elephant in the room with other Moms. Big Boy's Pre-K Moms don't know. Some have new babies and for some reason it seems that Moms really like to talk about their pregnancies and births...or at least these Moms do. They are all so nice. And I really am digging them and their kids. But. They don't know. And I'm afraid to say? Hmmmm...not sure afraid...just don't know HOW to say it. *Sigh* {{{Hugs}}} cuz I can relate. I know it isn’t the same thing, and please forgive me for making a comparison, but as an A-Mom, I feel the same way…like there is an elephant in the room with other Moms. Big Boy’s Pre-K Moms don’t know. Some have new babies and for some reason it seems that Moms really like to talk about their pregnancies and births…or at least these Moms do. They are all so nice. And I really am digging them and their kids. But. They don’t know. And I’m afraid to say? Hmmmm…not sure afraid…just don’t know HOW to say it. *Sigh* {{{Hugs}}} cuz I can relate.

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]]> By: Yondalla http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2008/10/13/silence-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3816 Yondalla Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:48:51 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=642#comment-3816 This post makes me think about things some of my gay friends say about coming out -- that it is not a one-time event. It is something they have to do over and over. I don't know if that parallel is helpful to you, but it occurs to me. What about bringing pictures of Munchkin? It would feel most natural (I am supposing) if they were new photos. It would be a way of getting the conversation started. This post makes me think about things some of my gay friends say about coming out — that it is not a one-time event. It is something they have to do over and over.

I don’t know if that parallel is helpful to you, but it occurs to me.

What about bringing pictures of Munchkin? It would feel most natural (I am supposing) if they were new photos. It would be a way of getting the conversation started.

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]]> By: J-Mom http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2008/10/13/silence-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3815 J-Mom Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:17:19 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=642#comment-3815 She does not. Already asked. She does not. Already asked.

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]]> By: Luann http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2008/10/13/silence-and-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3814 Luann Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:06:43 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=642#comment-3814 Can you ask one of the other friends if they have said anything to her about it? Cuz she may already know from them. Can you ask one of the other friends if they have said anything to her about it? Cuz she may already know from them.

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