Comments on: Birthday Week Blues

By: Benefactor of a Broken Cycle

Benefactor of a Broken Cycle — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 22:35:30 +0000

As an adopted person, I so appreciate you. And I am thankful for your sharing your thoughts. I am 26, was adopted at birth, never thought I would meet my birthmother or any of my blood relatives ever, but somehow did this last year when I was 25. Overall, it was a positive experience I believe for all those involved although it was hardest on my adoptive mom, for which I am truly hopeful she will find ways to process this and know that I love her more than anything no matter what. It has been almost 9 mo.’s since the meeting and I still am not sure how to process the craziness of it all. The whole story just blows my mind, and I know there are so many stories out there, each unique and none without complications. However, I just REALLY, REALLY wanted to tell you that I have always felt nothing but respect and gratitude for the woman who brought me into this world. Her background was broken and she chose to give me the whole future to thrive. I can’t express to her enough how much I admire what she did and that though I know it was possibly one of the hardest choices she had to make and things she ever had to do, SHE FISHED HER WISH! I had a great life and I owe a lot of that to her strength and caring. Even if she is too stubborn or hurt to admit that she was so unselfish and loving in her decision. We keep in touch and I have had the blessing to get to know most all of her side of my birthfamily and they are WONDERFUL. It is unbelievably an ideal situation just about. I haven’t met my birthfather yet, but I believe I someday will. Either way, I am so much more fulfilled getting to tell her that I appreciate what she did fully and have never resented her for it. I hope she is learning to forgive herself, just like I hope you will.

By: Leah

Leah — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 19:44:04 +0000

Jenna, you read my personal journal, so you know that I face these same issues every year the week of Kaylee’s birthday. Even though adoption doesn’t seem to ‘bother me’ on a daily level because I do have such peace about it, her birthday always kicks me in the rear.

And yes, you do need to celebrate her, whether it’s through tears or smiles, or both, celebrate her. Sending you hugs and prayers *hugs*

By: Deb Donatti

Deb Donatti — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 17:39:51 +0000

Sending you a hug.

By: Stop, Drop and Blog » Life is Good

Stop, Drop and Blog » Life is Good — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 16:03:50 +0000

[...] is good. It’s a hard week for me on an emotional level, but I cannot deny that my life is good. (That said, I won’t deny that I’m emotional [...]

By: Judy

Judy — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 15:21:17 +0000

Wow, I’m in tears.

Your daughter is beautiful, you are beautiful.

I have no words that wouldn’t sound like empty platitudes. I just hope you know how very much you are loved, by so many people, myself included, and most importantly by God — you and your daughter. God is with you every step of this ardous journey even when it feels that you’re at your lonliest.

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

I know it’s easier said than done, believe me, I know.

I care so very much. I love you, my friend.

By: Yondalla

Yondalla — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 15:04:38 +0000

Yes. A very moving post. Thank you for sharing it.