Comments on: Faith Like a … http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2009/07/15/faith-like-a/ Writing Our Ever-Evolving Story Tue, 16 Mar 2010 04:38:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Nicole http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2009/07/15/faith-like-a/comment-page-1/#comment-4274 Nicole Thu, 23 Jul 2009 18:28:00 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=812#comment-4274 Just a thought: "I hope that… maybe… someday… she’ll find a faith that isn’t damning or judgmental or that makes her feel guilty… but one that wipes her shame, eases her fears and comes to her as a second nature." This may be the disconnect for some "in the world." Because as someone who found the Christianity I was raised with to be the SOURCE of all my shame, I can easily imagine someone hearing the words "I hope my children will one day know the Lord" and freaking out a bit due to their own experience of Christianity. I mean it might be someone's residual trauma responding. That is all. Andy-- It's interesting that you said it was hard for you to reconcile being Catholic and the randomness of your adoption. I had similar experiences growing up--thinking about how if I'd been born into a different family, different country, different culture--I could very well be growing up a different religion. I imagine it's all even more complicated by adoption. For me it was all strictly hypothetical (though even that was enough to shake the faith), but for an adoptee you've actually experienced being removed from one family and put into another, not to mention faced with the "what if" of what would have happened if another family had adopted you. Complex indeed. Just a thought:

“I hope that… maybe… someday… she’ll find a faith that isn’t damning or judgmental or that makes her feel guilty… but one that wipes her shame, eases her fears and comes to her as a second nature.”

This may be the disconnect for some “in the world.” Because as someone who found the Christianity I was raised with to be the SOURCE of all my shame, I can easily imagine someone hearing the words “I hope my children will one day know the Lord” and freaking out a bit due to their own experience of Christianity.

I mean it might be someone’s residual trauma responding. That is all.

Andy–

It’s interesting that you said it was hard for you to reconcile being Catholic and the randomness of your adoption. I had similar experiences growing up–thinking about how if I’d been born into a different family, different country, different culture–I could very well be growing up a different religion. I imagine it’s all even more complicated by adoption. For me it was all strictly hypothetical (though even that was enough to shake the faith), but for an adoptee you’ve actually experienced being removed from one family and put into another, not to mention faced with the “what if” of what would have happened if another family had adopted you. Complex indeed.

]]> By: Peach http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2009/07/15/faith-like-a/comment-page-1/#comment-4271 Peach Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:49:59 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=812#comment-4271 Have a great time ~ from a fellow Christian, who is an adoptee. I know your prayers for your daughter will make a huge difference. When I found my first family, I found a letter hanging on their wall from an aunt that was praying for the entire family and all the children. It hit me that I was included in that prayer, even though I wasn't living in the family. Prayer works. Hugs, Peach Have a great time ~ from a fellow Christian, who is an adoptee. I know your prayers for your daughter will make a huge difference. When I found my first family, I found a letter hanging on their wall from an aunt that was praying for the entire family and all the children. It hit me that I was included in that prayer, even though I wasn’t living in the family. Prayer works. Hugs, Peach

]]> By: cindy.psbm http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2009/07/15/faith-like-a/comment-page-1/#comment-4270 cindy.psbm Thu, 16 Jul 2009 05:10:47 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=812#comment-4270 I totally get what you mean. I DO want my birthson to have a relationship with God just like the one I enjoy. I make no apoligies for wanting that, seems only natural to want something for someone I love that has done so much good in my own life, that I just can't imagine living any other way. I choose my birthson's parents with that in mind...that there faith match mine. Really though, everyone lives there faith in God a different way, even if they believe the same principles. Seems harsh that someone berated you for wanting something good for your daughter...doesn't make sense to me... I totally get what you mean. I DO want my birthson to have a relationship with God just like the one I enjoy.
I make no apoligies for wanting that, seems only natural to want something for someone I love that has done so much good in my own life, that I just can’t imagine living any other way.
I choose my birthson’s parents with that in mind…that there faith match mine. Really though, everyone lives there faith in God a different way, even if they believe the same principles.

Seems harsh that someone berated you for wanting something good for your daughter…doesn’t make sense to me…

]]> By: Andy http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2009/07/15/faith-like-a/comment-page-1/#comment-4269 Andy Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:16:25 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=812#comment-4269 That's really interesting. One thing that I always wondered/struggled with when I was growing up was what religion or set of beliefs my first parents were. I was raised in a Catholic household and I could never quite reconcile the fact that I as Catholic only because I was adopted. If I hadn't been adopted or if I had been adopted by the next family on the list would I have been Buddhist? Jewish? something else??? For me it was really hard to understand what faith was when it seemed so random. Get these parents and you believe this, get those parents you believe that. Have a great time at camp! That’s really interesting. One thing that I always wondered/struggled with when I was growing up was what religion or set of beliefs my first parents were. I was raised in a Catholic household and I could never quite reconcile the fact that I as Catholic only because I was adopted. If I hadn’t been adopted or if I had been adopted by the next family on the list would I have been Buddhist? Jewish? something else???

For me it was really hard to understand what faith was when it seemed so random. Get these parents and you believe this, get those parents you believe that.

Have a great time at camp!

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