Comments on: Some Thoughts on Sharing, Over-Sharing and The Like http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2010/02/02/some-thoughts-on-sharing-over-sharing-and-the-like/ Writing Our Ever-Evolving Story Sat, 04 Feb 2012 03:41:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Y. http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2010/02/02/some-thoughts-on-sharing-over-sharing-and-the-like/comment-page-1/#comment-5261 Y. Sun, 18 Jul 2010 21:25:03 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=966#comment-5261 Can I just say, you're awesome? I've been sitting here, bumping around your site, feeling for you - admiring your writing, nodding, but just what you deal with day to day - it's really cool. I mean, that came out wrong (so hit delete..) what you deal with sucks! But you're a good writer, no doubt, and an even better all around Mommy to all your kidlets, with you or not, but the way you think about things! It's so refreshing! I am a birth mom. My daughter is about to turn 18 and we're hoping she'll maybe want to see us. I picked up some books only to run into everything you're talking about - I'm a lowly birth mom, she was rescued, she was unwanted by me (all untrue except for the first). I don't know what to do in my situation. I haven't made a choice yet. But I totally applaud your words here, your courage, the fact that you've chosen to share your life with the rest of us.... and speak for us in a way that invites. Thank you so much! Can I just say, you’re awesome? I’ve been sitting here, bumping around your site, feeling for you – admiring your writing, nodding, but just what you deal with day to day – it’s really cool. I mean, that came out wrong (so hit delete..) what you deal with sucks! But you’re a good writer, no doubt, and an even better all around Mommy to all your kidlets, with you or not, but the way you think about things! It’s so refreshing!

I am a birth mom. My daughter is about to turn 18 and we’re hoping she’ll maybe want to see us. I picked up some books only to run into everything you’re talking about – I’m a lowly birth mom, she was rescued, she was unwanted by me (all untrue except for the first).

I don’t know what to do in my situation. I haven’t made a choice yet. But I totally applaud your words here, your courage, the fact that you’ve chosen to share your life with the rest of us…. and speak for us in a way that invites. Thank you so much!

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]]> By: Mia http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2010/02/02/some-thoughts-on-sharing-over-sharing-and-the-like/comment-page-1/#comment-4765 Mia Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:35:14 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=966#comment-4765 It really is a tricky issue in talking about adoption, whether in print or IRL conversation. Each adoption situation is so individual that if we only stick to large-scale idea and theoretical sharing that isn't specific, a lot of what might be helpful gets lost. At the same time, if we wait for mature informed consent from the kids involved, it's unlikely we'll be able to remember what happened and how it all felt and what we did about it. I'm not a blogger, so I don't know how I'd balance those sides out or if I'd be able to. As a reader of blogs, I am often thankful for specifics because they truly do inform, and only occasionally do I kind of cringe about stuff that's posted, and think about how I wouldn't like to be a kid going to school with other kids who could have access to that information, etc. It really is a tricky issue in talking about adoption, whether in print or IRL conversation. Each adoption situation is so individual that if we only stick to large-scale idea and theoretical sharing that isn’t specific, a lot of what might be helpful gets lost. At the same time, if we wait for mature informed consent from the kids involved, it’s unlikely we’ll be able to remember what happened and how it all felt and what we did about it.

I’m not a blogger, so I don’t know how I’d balance those sides out or if I’d be able to.

As a reader of blogs, I am often thankful for specifics because they truly do inform, and only occasionally do I kind of cringe about stuff that’s posted, and think about how I wouldn’t like to be a kid going to school with other kids who could have access to that information, etc.

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]]> By: Upstatemomof3 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/2010/02/02/some-thoughts-on-sharing-over-sharing-and-the-like/comment-page-1/#comment-4764 Upstatemomof3 Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:06:02 +0000 http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com/?p=966#comment-4764 It is an interesting topic and not particularly easy for me either. Before my youngest came home we had some issues in her process. They were caused by personal and difficult things. Things I talked about vaguely and gave very little details about. Just that delays had been caused and we would have to wait for her a little (or a lot if I was in an emotional mood - which I generally was). One day that story will be hers and she will know it completely. She will be free to tell whoever she wants, whenever she wants. But I would hate for it to be out there for family to know before (or if) she did not want them to know. Lately, I find myself wanting to write a little about attachment and bonding in adoption. Especially, international adoption, where the child is never an infant. But how do I do that without putting too much of her journey out there? Is it appropriate to talk about her journey of bonding and attaching to us and us to her? I don't know and so I say nothing. I will wait and one day maybe I will have the words. Maybe not. Its a good question though. I am sure even more tricky for you then me. :) It is an interesting topic and not particularly easy for me either. Before my youngest came home we had some issues in her process. They were caused by personal and difficult things. Things I talked about vaguely and gave very little details about. Just that delays had been caused and we would have to wait for her a little (or a lot if I was in an emotional mood – which I generally was). One day that story will be hers and she will know it completely. She will be free to tell whoever she wants, whenever she wants. But I would hate for it to be out there for family to know before (or if) she did not want them to know.

Lately, I find myself wanting to write a little about attachment and bonding in adoption. Especially, international adoption, where the child is never an infant. But how do I do that without putting too much of her journey out there? Is it appropriate to talk about her journey of bonding and attaching to us and us to her? I don’t know and so I say nothing. I will wait and one day maybe I will have the words. Maybe not.

Its a good question though. I am sure even more tricky for you then me. :)

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