I need you to go read this blog. In its entirety. It’s not long just yet, only three posts. It was started just recently by a birth father that made his way into our Ohio Birth Parent Group. His story broke my heart for many reasons, but let me share a bit of it with you in his words.
I have decided to start this blog because there is a boy out there who has a Daddy or “Birth Father” that he has yet to meet. Not because of his decision and definitely not because of my decision. In fact, up until about 45 days ago I never even knew I had a son. How could this be you ask? Great question, please let me tell you…
Yes, he has a son that was relinquished for adoption without his knowledge or permission. He is understandably flabbergasted and upset and likely a million other emotions in between. I have told him to reach out to the bloggers behind some other birth father blogs who have sadly lived the same life, though most of those come from further west and not here in Ohio. He has not met his son though the DNA came back as a match. He’s now in a waiting period where the adoptive family, also understandably shocked, holds all the power. He’s having a crash course in the issues of adoption, isn’t he?
I have no patience for mothers who do this to fathers. I have even less patience for a completely corrupt adoption industry that allows things like this to happen. I hate that we are unnecessarily, unethically and illegally taking children from parents who would parent, who would be fantastic parents, simply for the almighty dollar. It’s horrifying.
Ranting aside, please go support this “new” birth father. Like many in the adoption niche of the blogosphere, this was not his choice. At all. He needs the love and support of the lot of us right now and I encourage you to do so.