Comments for The Chronicles of Munchkin Land

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by katie

katie — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 23:42:59 +0000

As well, of course, as all those whose first-born died… or who lost one or more before their first *born*…

I assume people live in a little happy bubble where everything is fine and dandy and all parents get to raise all the children they carry.

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by brown

brown — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 03:35:37 +0000

Pretty much sums up my thoughts this morning when I saw the same. I could put up a pic of my parented daughter and none would be the wiser, or take issue with it. Even my birthdaughter’s mom who is one of my friends would understand. However, it just doesn’t feel authentic.

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by Jenna

Jenna — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:25:33 +0000

Look! We’re all emo-anxious together! Technically it reads first child, which she is, no?

That said, I feel that my Mom should totally make me her profile picture. Ahem. HA!

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by Dee

Dee — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:12:58 +0000

I do understand why you aren’t putting her picture up. On the flip side of it, it would feel weird for me to put her picture up as well. Although she is my oldest child, she isn’t technically my “first born”.

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by etropic

etropic — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 08:42:11 +0000

I so was thinking the same thing. My son that I relinquished turns 11 in 3 weeks. So that little “thing” on FB kind of got my mind twirling as well..Glad to know I’m not the only one..

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by Jenna

Jenna — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 04:28:31 +0000

I knew/know. But it’s still… it’s something that I can’t quite explain. Maybe I’ll work on that post. Or something!

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by Dee

Dee — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 04:15:49 +0000

Hey, it’s cool, I don’t mind ;) But, I think you already knew that.

Comment on Facebook Made Me Anxious by Susie

Susie — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 03:48:30 +0000

I had my breath taken away when I saw that post by several friends. I can’t bring myself to put my first-born’s pic up, as I did not raise him, have only been reunited for a year, am not “out of the closet” with all my facebook friends, am “friends” with my oldest son and don’t know what he would think of me posting him. (If I knew for sure my son would be ok with it, I think I would post it.) On the other hand, I can’t bring myself to post my daughter’s pic either, as she was not my first-born.

This life as a first mom is complicated. I wish there was a rule book!

Susie

Comment on I Got Googled by Rachel Thiessen

Rachel Thiessen — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:36:01 +0000

Sharing your story makes a real difference, it least it has for me. I am an adult adoptee who is actively working on building a relationship with my birth mother. When I read your blog I think about how your experiences may be similar or different from my birth mother’s experiences. So thank you for sharing so much of yourself even though I’m sure it is scary at times.

Comment on I Got Googled by Mia

Mia — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 04:07:26 +0000

I think that by putting it out there, you actually disempower anyone who wants to hold your story against you, even just in a gossipy way. First of all because you aren’t hiding stuff, and that makes it seem like stuff that doesn’t require hiding–a message this world needs to hear. But also because if they actually take the time to read your words, they might find themselves understanding your experience and your perspective.

I’m way older than you, so it may be more true for folks in my age bracket than for yours since more time has passed for things to have changed in people’s lives, but I like to think that since high school or college days, we’ve all had so many things served up to us by fate that we wouldn’t have expected. Anyone who puts up her nose and acts superior will likely have to enjoy that position all alone–the rest of us are busy dealing with reality.